Carson City symposium to demystify transgender community

A transgender symposium is planned for 6:30 p.m. Thursday at the Brewery Arts Center in Carson City.

The symposium is co-sponsored by the Transgender Allies Group and Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, Carson Region.

“The more educated and informed people are about the broad spectrums of gender and sexuality, the more empowered we can all be in accepting one another,” said Pam Graber, founder of the Carson Region PFLAG and chapter secretary. “There is nothing to be afraid of. We just need to embrace one another, have understanding and love in our hearts.”

The symposium will host a panel of speakers, which will include transgender people, allies and medical professionals.

Kimi Cole said the healthcare industry also has gone through a learning process.

Growing up, Cole said she always felt that something wasn’t right.

“I’d look in the mirror and it didn’t feel authentic,” she said. “Every counselor gave me the same advice, that I would outgrow it by the time I turned 50. I held onto that for dear life, and it turned out to be absolutely untrue. ... Now life is awesome.”

Throughout her life, she said, she could always see the male and female perspective. While the female response felt right, she said she would most often choose the male response to comply with cultural norms.

“Now, when I experience something, it is what it is,” Cole said. “I don’t have to decide how to present. It’s much more natural. Much more seamless, and much less stressful.”

Some of her relationships suffered at first, Cole said, but most have become as strong or stronger than before.

Her ex-wife remains her business partner and best friend.

“She’s been one of my biggest encouragers and supporters,” Cole said.

She hopes the symposium will inform the community and help those who identify as transgender as well as help their loved ones who may struggle with acceptance for religious or other reasons.

“Maybe they don’t have to be so fearful of somebody who’s different,” Cole said. “We want to dispel harmful myths.”

Although the symposium was planned many months in advance, the timing coincided with the much-publicized announcement of Caitlyn Jenner’s transition in a televised interview with Diane Sawyer.

“With 70 million people watching that interview, it has opened the discussion,” Cole said. “It’s what we make of that discussion that’s going to determine where we go from here.”